What Mistakes Am I to Avoid before Marriage?

I want to talk to you about marriage. It’s not my sermon. This is not sermon. This is talking – father to children.

So I’m going to begin by talking to my daughters. Listen to me very carefully.

My beloved daughters, don’t marry a man who has no job. Before God gave Adam Eve, He gave him a job. He said this is the garden, keep it.

So those who come to you and say, “Sister, thus sayeth the Lord God, you are going to be the star in my firmament.”

“Alright sir, before I become the star in your firmament, what is your job?”

If he hasn’t got a steady income, he hasn’t got a job, don’t marry him.

“Go and get it a job first. Man is to provide for the house, not the other way round.”

If he has no income, he should not marry.

He’s tall, lanky, handsome, and rich. And you jump for him…hmmm.

Goliath was tall. He lost his head. King Saul was lanky, he lost his crown. Don’t marry a fool. His externals don’t matter. His wealth is of no account. If he’s not a true child of God, don’t be associated with him. The Word of God is clear:

Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers… (2 Corinthians 6:14)

And if somebody pretends that he is a Christian, he is following you to church because he’s thinking that he could get you. All you need to do is watch!  The Bible says that by their fruits you shall know them. Not by their talk.

There are some sweet talking demons. Stay away from them.

Ask him: Do you believe in holiness?

If he says, “no human being can be perfect, we are all flesh, only God is perfect.”

The moment you hear that, run! Because if you marry a boy who does not believe in holiness, you will only be wife number one – don’t ever think that you can marry somebody and then change the fellow. If the fellow does not change before you marry, it’s a settled matter.

Alright let me talk to my boys:

Don’t marry Delilah.

Because Delilah can stop Samson

What does that mean?

Don’t marry for beauty sake. The Bible is clear. Proverbs 31:30:

“Favor is deceitful, and beauty is vain: but a woman that feareth the Lord, she shall be praised.” (KJV)

Don’t ever dare marry outside the Church – don’t marry Delilah. The parents of Samson told him, “are there not women of your own people?”

Don’t marry a girl simply because she can sing. Singing is wonderful. God loves worshippers. But the devil used to be the choir master in heaven.

Don’t marry a girl who is lazy. You pay their family a surprise visit and you see the way she is. If she’s lazy when she’s a girl, how is she going to cope when she’s married and has children? How will she cope?

Don’t marry a girl who cannot cook! You don’t want to spend all your money going to Mr. Bigg’s. You want to eat food in your own house. A girl who cannot cook will not be a good wife. Do I hear somebody say Amen?

Don’t marry a girl who is worldly. A girl who would not dress right, who’s always after jewelry – if you do, you have gotten something you will worship for the rest of your life.

Colossians 3:1-2 says:

“If ye then be risen with Christ, seek those things which are above, where Christ sitteth on the right hand of God.” (KJV)

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by Pastor E.A Adeboye

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